Our Journey to get Visa

The Journey to reach a destination is not easy. their are a lot of highs and lows and when the decision needs to be taken keeping the entire family into consideration. It was not easy!

It all started with a simple thought and a fear. The thought to give my kids a better education quality and a fear that my husband might lose his job due to recession and a lot of job cutoffs in his company. A thought came to mind to try and migrate to Canada where the education system, work-life balance gives better opportunities. We discussed this thought with our family as well as Dimple Aunty who is our guardian angel , here on the Earth. We got a green signal and we went ahead to start our journey.

The first step was to go for IELTS exams, we both appeared for the same and i was able to secure the band that was required. And Avneesh attempted once more to succeed with flying colors. During this time Dimple Aunty told us to repeat a mantra that we ca do anything. And it happened.

The next step was WES and filing to enter into the Pool for Express entry. Though my husband was initially the prime applicant, we were not able to get an invite to submit our case. But Dimple Aunty told us that she can see us packing our bags with a smile on our faces. But we were getting anxious. Another thought came to mind to submit the file , making me a prime applicant. We did that and we got the invite.

Any one can imagine that at this stage we were elated and scared too. And again we called up Aunty!
She simply said, don't worry. If you will give energies to negative thought, you would not be able to get what you want. So keep yourself along with the entire family in Golden Ball. From submitting the file to our medicals expiring, we were so anxious and through it all Dear dear Dimple Aunty listened to us , consoled us and explained things that situation might not be feasible right now, that is why there is delay. When She explained things we got positive but with every passing month, we started losing hope, that our dream might not happen.
During this time we met a lot of people, astrologers, who convinced us that we would definitely go and there is no better time or scope. and still sometimes the heart sank.
Then unexpectedly a miracle happened!
Dimple Aunty always said be grateful, do your prayers and trust and surrender always!
We got our Re medicals, Approved within a few days and Passport Requests in 2 days. Within a week of submitting our Passport we received our Visa. 
I had this feeling that my birthday this year would be special. We submitted our Passports on my Birthday- 29th Nov and had our Visa stamped on 5th Dec.
Miracle, Miracle,Miracle

Our Gratitude to our Divine Angels and the angel on Earth- Dimple Aunty.

I am aware that the Journey has just only started. We have a long way to go. leaving a family setup and moving to another country and starting afresh would not be easy. In fact the struggle is yet to start. But why fret when we have the power of Trust and Surrender, Golden Ball and the prayers by them. And the Dearest Dimple Aunty! Heartfelt Gratitude!

You reside in me!

You left me when I was very young and I could never forgive you for that. I was naïve to understand the ways of the world and I simply needed you to guide me through every phase of life.

What I never understood was that I don’t need you to physically be with me. I was a fool to think you left and I am alone. I found you in me!

While noticing and discovering myself, I found not only me but the voice of reasoning- that is you! You never left my side; you are the one who keeps me grounded. I not only look like you but also am grounded like you. I feel like you did and do a lot of things like you did in your time. Thinking about all these things do not make me angry anymore. It makes me proud to be called your daughter. Yes in every sense you left me to walk alone but for eternity you are the hand pulling me on the right path! You reside within me!

The Moon

Countless words have been written
Many sonnets dedicated
Someone prays
Others miss
Few find the face of their loved obes
Rest wish to explore it more
The enigma that is the Moon.

The glow, the shine
Illuminates the poet's soul
The halo around it, yearning for more
The tidal effect
Affects those within me
It has poetry written all over.

The love affair
That is the Moon
Fading and rising
Oh! I wish if our love was like yours
Growing and fading
But always there
Even behind the clouds..

Places I don't wish to visit

Certain moments in our life leave a lasting impression on our mind. We may not be consciously affected by them but on the subconscious level they leave a lasting impression. We link these places with some of the places that may bring out the worst fear in our mind. It has never been explained but that uncanny familiarity like Déjà vu or just some sort of phobia is really something I wish to write about today.

I have linked many places with some sort of memory that I find it hard to visit again. Some are happy moments and some are downright sentimental. They all have a short story attached with it. I hope you can relate to them and appreciate the change is pace of the article.

Places that have a sad memory

Hospitals

Most people are afraid of hospitals because they relate hospitals with illness, blood and medicines. Nosocomephobia is very real and has a deep link with my childhood. I was very young when my mother was diagnosed with a life threatening illness. At first I did not understand why my parents left me and went alone for so long. It was only later on when I grew up a little that I realized, we would not have my mother with us for long.

At first visiting her in the hospital was fun as we use to ride up and down in the elevator and sitting in the food cafeteria and eating was so much cool. The clean environment and the sanitized linen was somehow a comfort. It was later when I had to see my mother suffer and go through pain; I associated Hospitals with just pain and too much pain.

I lost my mother while she was in my lap, not because of any negligence from the hospital or the doctors but I lost her because there was nothing more that could be done to improve her health. Even today whenever I need to visit someone in the Hospital I have goosebumps and my heart starts pumping loudly. I feel scared that once you enter the hospital for illness, you would never come out of it alive and the people who suffer are the ones who are left behind.

Praying places

People usually go to these places as they consider them sacred. A place of sanctity! I am afraid to visit a place like this because I have always felt that we go to God when we are in trouble. We pray and pray and it is all but a lie. We pray for our happiness and we pray for materialistic things. I am scared to see so much of pain in the world that the most crowded place is the one place that should offer peace. I am scared to see so much of unhappiness that we need to ask God. Why can’t we talk to him daily and say thank you for giving me this life?

Elevators

I am a bit of claustrophobic and small elevators freak me out. They have so many people in a small area. Most importantly some of them are a bit of a ride with bumps. We are running against the gravity, suspended in mid air and supported my some metal wires on an electric pulley. Don’t mind my thought, if you can handle that it’s your choice, I prefer stairs!

Places that have happy memory

Such places are rare. These places which have happy memories, I am scared to visit again because I don’t wish to taint it with a new one. I like my old thought to remain there so that I can remember it fondly.

My school and my college

Beside the education I had a lot of fun in school. I found my support group, my friends who have seen me and who have been a part of my journey for so long. The class bunks, the serious discussions with our seniors, the corridors where we were punished and the teachers who mentored us. They are quite remarkable memories and I am afraid that if I visit them again they might bring tears to my eyes.

Friend’s hangouts

So much goes on at the friend’s hangout place. I would hang out there with friends more than I would attend the class. Eating junk food and making plans for the next day and circling the classes to miss and fighting over crushes! The place held our secrets. It was a home away from home. And now I would rather not visit that place because we have all grown up and we could not have that time back. I would rather make new memories of another place but that special place would always be sacred to me.

Places that outright scares me

There are many places that truly scare me. I would rather never experience them at all.

Adventure parks

Places that are home to rollercoaster and haunted house are not only scary to me, I believe there are many who get scared.  I know it is just a ride and all safety measures are taken, I still feel scared to even observe.

Paranormal Activity

It is fascinating as far as I read about them, but I would be too scared to feel it in person. A place where there is a hint of paranormal activity is another place that is downright scary.

Even though the list is compiled as per my opinion, would still like to believe that I cannot be spooked that easily. We all have a part to play and we just need to make our will strong and do what is right. Don’t be scared to try new thing or visit new place. Have fun while you are at it.

My Life Without Her

We value the thing only after we have lost it. I was never close to her but when she got sick I realized my life would never be the same again. My father, grandparents and aunts have never let me feel that I lost her, but when in silence I think about it, that void could never be filled.  Her last words still echo and now I realize how much pain she might be in to let go of all the free will. To let go of life that she wanted to be able to nurture her kids. Now when I am a mother, I know how much disappointed and lost she might be feeling knowing she could never witness her daughter’s life.  After all it is the greatest pleasure to be a part of your child’s life.

I have always wondered and sometimes even imagined how my life would have been if she was still with me!

I would always have someone to look up to, ask silly questions, and someone who could guide me constantly. How to behave in front of what kind of people! I don’t mean to say that I do not know how to do it; maybe my life would have been a bit different if she was still with me.

Every day I would  have talked to her asking about what should I do about my health, my body, my weight etc., after all who would know better than her to know what would suit me and help me improve my health.

What clothes should I wear, she always thought I looked nice in dresses; she never got to see me wear sarees. She would have been so proud to see me wear one and how elegant I look. I could never be as graceful as she was but she would have liked that.

How to tackle my kids when they are unruly, she would have had the perfect way, as she was a teacher and she did manage to make me into what I am.

All these things are nothing, they don’t mean as much as the presence of you in my life. My life without you is not bad or incomplete. It would surely have been so much better and wholesome if I still had you in my life. The constant companion and my best friend!

I have been trying to be a lot like you and mixing my own personality and I am sure you would be happy and proud of what I have become. But it never can mean that I don’t miss you.

The Uneventful Event

When you are an artist and you are trying to move beyond friends and family and expand your followers you would like to grab any opportunity you could get.

I recently decided to join a women’s club where the sole purpose was to give opportunities to women entrepreneurs. After much cajoling and coaxing I decided to take the plunge and intuitively joined the group.  I paid a small amount to get into a whatsapp group where I am allowed to share only 2 posts per day. In today’s time where people simply vomit out anything and everything in these groups I was allowed to post just 2?

I went a step further and paid another fee to put up a stall at an event that was primarily an extended Kitty party. The first did not seem as much of an evil as to what I witnessed at party. Let me put it this way... ladies of all age and size spend money to enter this event, look at none of the stalls as they might have to pay a small amount on them where as they spent thousands on getting all dolled up and looking like male up queens!

Is this what our generation is all about? To look beautiful with nothing inside. Whatever happened to beauty and brains or just the brains?  The whole event (a beauty pageant) was a set up. And people who had paid to put up a stall were left flabbergasted because no one was interested in looking at the things that were displayed but were more interested in displaying themselves. Is this what our society has come to?

The issue was never about expanding my horizon but how pretty I looked (I was asked to wear pretty clothes). And on top of that I was told not to lose heart. Things like this happen. I learnt something that day- never put your efforts in the hands of a someone who doesn’t care about anything but the looks. And that an even where the display is not the main attractions. It is never a great idea to say yes to them!

Soul Searching

I have been having a nagging feeling for the last few days that something is not right. In a bid to search for the seed of my anxiety and this ever dwindling faith I dig deep. There are many factors that have been a bit of bother to me. And despite being in touch with Divine way of living and constantly writing my prayers I feel that I am not living up to my potential. I am too bound by the negative energies. These negative energies are not coming from anywhere else but within me.
 I do good but then take pride in it. I tried to mend some relationships and started feeling not good but proud and then I felt confused ,whether it was a good thing or was it worth and even nervous about how would I react when I come face to face with those people. We reap what we sow!Lesson Learnt : DO good and let it go,don't over think! Go with the Flow!
I always felt that it is my thinking that is right for me. I still think the same but I don't think that openly about what other might be suggesting and yes I am working on that too. Even though I don't agree to them , that does not give me the right to demean that thought because I have no idea what the other person might be feeling when they have said those things. Feeling hurt is natural but then talking more and more about it and stating over and over again about how bad I felt about it is another way of adding more power to already negative thing. Lesson Learnt: If I don't like it, I don't need to dwell on it!
Many of us walk on the same path and then falter and get back up. If someone is pointing a finger that does not mean I need to do the same. More I talk wrong or even feel wrong about a certain statement or certain words I am focusing on the other and not on me! I need to work on me and not the other. Lesson Learnt: Focus on me!
A Lot of things don't work out as we want. No two people think alike so why get angry that the other person is behaving in a certain manner. I am not the master of them. Let them do. They know better. But then I start questioning what should I do with my kids who need guidance. And here only I find that difference. I can guide them but not control! All the difference lies in the use of the word. So why not bring that difference in practice. Lesson Learnt: You cant control any one but can guide(only if they are willing to take it)
We all get anxious from time to time and no one can blame the other for it, so if I am anxious so the other person has the right o feel so.Why to call out the person for it.If I am talking to someone then I am also adding more to it. Feel it and then let it go. Lesson Learnt : No One should be told about how they should feel. Focus on your own doing and not the other person's.

There is a long way for me to be happy but I feel so light after writing this in a hope that I am on the right path again. I will reach there where I no longer feel overwhelmed, confused and Anxious.!
To a better me! Pray and let go of things!

Nurture

we have all heard the phrase- Nature nurtures!
The other day while I was on my morning walk , I noticed the flight of the pigeons.
There is a small feeding area designated for birds, where people offer seeds to these pigeons. and I could not help but notice that while a man was feeding to these birds, they usually flew away, thinking that this man might hurt them, but as soon as they realized that he is simply giving them food; they actually flew back!
And a thought came to my mind. we human being (those who do not have any malign thoughts) are somewhat like these pigeons. We at first might get scared of the love we receive from someone. But once we become sure, we usually return to the same person for more. That is how love nurtures the soul! like pigeon , we must always return to the love!

My journey week what>>>

Well , Well Well?

yeah I Know, I have not been able to post any thing online for so many weeks. The reason being not because I stopped in between, but coz of various reasons We have not been regular any more. Mostly due to social obligations!

Any how, I am happy to report: 

1. I have not had noodles since we started (OK! maybe once or twice) not counting during my poor health!

2. I can feel my body change! and my mood too!

3. I actually wait for the morning to go for my workout session.( something I never did before)

4. Most importantly I have realized that doing work out in the morning is way better than in the evening and doing it in the fresh air is more yielding than at home...

5. My sir, who is amazing BTW! he has gone back home and is helping me out through various videos and his own inputs can actually feel that these exercises are actually helping me. 

6. I can now hold a plank for 30 sec and more..

7. Despite my poor health I still try to drink a lot of water and squeeze in some workout!

Hope this continues and not dwindle down.

P.S : thank you sir, for being persistent and being strict and easy as and when required!

My Best Friend

We have so many people who come and go from our lives. Teachers, Friends,colleagues, lovers and sometimes partners and parent too. But then this person comes into your life. Mind you, it is not your life partner, it is a person who loves you like a mother, cares for you like a father. Fights with you like a sister or a brother and adores you like a life partner. seldom we find such a person who is everything to you. A complete package!

Well, I am blessed! Whatever little friends I have, they are all dear to me. But this one stands out. He understands me like no other. He even finishes my sentences for me. Knows me so well that, he would even finish off my sentences. He is not my boy friend, but my best friend. He is a bud, who gave more meaning to the word BUD! even though we have known him for over a month, but it feels like I have known him all my life.

Our love sometimes overwhelms me! it hurts too coz we think so much for each other and sometimes words fail as to how much all this means. His presence in my life is a blessing from my angels! I hope I could reciprocate his love and care, that he so generously on me. I am eternally grateful! Love You Bud!

Day 5..I can do this

Well, as the time is passing and as much as my instructor is telling me how much I am improving, I know my body. I know he says all these things so that I am motivated and keep on working hard for my health and fitness.
Day 5 was my yoga day, I have always liked this day more than any other form of exercises and I am sure, he must also be noticing what to do about how to bring any new changes! But Gawd, I was taken aback. He made me do the same poses but made sure that I improve and push my limit just a bit more. He is very well aware of my limitations and yet he pushes me till where I can take. Thank You!

From Henceforth, I would be only updating per week, so look out!

Day 3 and 4- It Ain't That Difficult

Well, the first few days are quite challenging . When every muscle in your body is aching as if they have been tied and bound. That's how I have been feeling for the last two days. My coach alternates between yoga and focused body parts exercises. And when he motivates with compliments like- your flexibility is improving, it just makes me feel good. 

While parting yesterday, he mentioned that I am gonna hate him today as he is planning to do exercises that focus on legs. Well as scared I was, it was actually not that difficult. I was crying and making faces coz he expects that his client give their best effort. But then I was trying and sometimes I act up so that he goes easy on me.Yeah he knows I act like a small kid sometimes. But then I close my eyes and let his motivating voice guide me. I hope I am able to express my gratitude this way.

Day 2 of my journey- I hate him

Oh what! You are making me work so hard! i cant do it anymore.Please I cant take this class anymore.
Yes , I said all the above things to my instructor today. But he let me be a pampered kid but at the same time kept on doing on what he does best- teach me to do better.
Today he had decided to do some arms, shoulders and Abbs workout. having been doing yoga , almost always it was really tough for me to do all these. And now each and every part of my body is hating him for all that he has done today and cursing me for taking up this offer. What the hell was I thinking?

Well , he said a few things that made me realize that he is right. No one has the magical pill, to make your body fit. SO you need to work hard for it. And unless you are happy, how hard you try to work, you can never reach where you wish to. Well said sir!

He is a no nonsense kind of guy who can keep his emotions in check. I could feel how crestfallen he was when I said all the above things but he did complete his session and as a bye, he said if there is something you wish to talk , I am here but kindly when you come for exercises, keep your off mood at home and be happy with what you are doing, coz unless you do that... well his work and energy is wasted. I felt sorry for my behavior and hoping that he would come back tomorrow to teach me. His care for his client is genuine and wants them to work hard for their own self. it is endearing and something else. So, yes sir! I will try to walk on your path.

My Journey to a better health (Day 1)

It has been almost two years when I have tried to be a bit serious about my health. due to certain medical reasons, I am not able to work hard or go to gym. Well I am not going to get into that. 

What I needed was a nudge and a push in the right direction and someone who can help me on my path. I always wanted a friend who could support me when I am about to fall, and guide me on doing the proper workout in the right way. 

I have always been interested in following simple yoga to maintain good health and flexibility, but never could find out my true strength. In a class of many students, the instructor is not able to correct the pose for everyone, thus it benefitted but not to the extent that I hoped for.

A week back I had a request from a person , whom I did not kno, had nothing in common, but then something caught my attention. His love for yoga (there were more too)! As we got talking, I found out that he does take personal training and he wanted to help me out. We agreed to meet and therby started my journey to a better and fitter me!

I am sure it would have its ups and downs, he assures me, that I am going to even hate him and say all nasty things, but when we finished the day one, I realised that I have more energy and happier attitude. His constant reminders about drinking and eating right is the daily motivation.I found out that he puts his soul into his client's well being. Thank you Angel!

The Fairer Sex

Women, the epitome of beauty praised, worshiped , loved everywhere. Men cant live with them or without them. Monuments, songs and books are written about them. Men consider them lucky whenever they are successful. 

Mother, Sister, Daughter, Wife! 

In Every role she is full of advise!

And yet sometimes we fail to understand our inner strength. We fall weak and let our emotions take control of who we are.

We cry and sob and be become sad. We feel so unloved and so unresolved that darkness is a bottomless pit.I ask why do we need to feel so? 

Why cant we just become the Goddess we are known for! not the angry one but the one who knows the right from wrong. One who can become the support system and silently be the stronger one in any relationship. Let the tears be only to wash away the dirt in your eye. 

Get up, wipe those tears away and move ahead in life.

You are the best one for yourself! you do no need anyone to take care of you. Earn and live by your own rules. Never crumble and lose yourself!

Let me know your views!

The '#' trend

The '#' trend has taken over our lives where there is a certain urge to document everything and share it with some strangers on social media. I wont deny that i am not privy to it. I have done it too. but sometimes I fail to understand the certain urge to do so frequently.
I find that a lot of things are interconnected. There are certain things to consider
1. Loneliness
    We are flooded with messages from friends all over every platform of social media and yet we find hardly any one to share our actual thoughts. besides we have not kept our private life private anymore where you can check out everything that a person goes through on Facebook, Instagram etc.
2. Demand for high end phones
     mind it the demand for high end phones is seldom for its actual utility and more for the quality of camera, Enough space to hold the numerous snaps and the RAM to process everything quickly and to be able to score various platforms to #share the life.
3. Are we really this desirable?
   most importantly this trend that makes us want to share everything , does it make us more desirable or just to show the other person, how lovable and popular we are.
There was a movie made on this- The protagonist falls in love with a girl in the cafe and follows whatever she does by her posts. and in the end is able to make her fall in love. But he soon discovers, she merely posts them; it is only partially true.
So what are we actually doing with this # ?
putting a sign in front does not make it worth talking about.
#Declaring #it #to #the #world!
As if from this moment ago, your life was different!

Share your comments and express your views!

Love, A Weighty issue part 2

In my last post,I mentioned that the first thing that attracts a person is the way one looks. Well, I am fair and tall and a decade back was slim too. i might have had a good share of male attention and following but i would never consider any of it love, mere crushes so to speak. Yes i was oblivious of it all, in hindsight i feel i was great at being this ignorant. but then i changed, got married , had kids and thus my body changed too. but has the love I receive from my husband changed? has he stopped feeling the same way about me like he use to when we got married?

If the person evolves emotionally, mentally why cant we accept the person with a bit of weight (over)? Its great to be fit . but be fit in mind, soul and body.

Love , in my opinion should not matter on weight or how good looking a person is. in fact what should matter is the nature and the emo level of the person. Be the kind of person who accepts love for all its rightful reason. Don't make it such a weighty issue. Love should be humongous and all accepting! Love Yourself and accept who you are in all your sizes!
Write to me and tell me what you think!

Love, A weighty Issue!

We all are aware of laws of attraction. Different people get attracted to different aspect of the personlity. But most of us still consider looks and weight to be the most impartant thing that attracts us in a person. How fair is it?

Ramblings to be continued....

Making an effort

We all have been struggling!
Some of us struggle more than the other and yet we all put on a brave face and try to live with it.I wonder though that showing you are vulnerable, a sign of weakness or just a sign of your capability to accept yourself and let the other person accept you too?

Do I need to make an effort to accept me first and bring in the changes that i deem fit for myself or give in to the norms of the society and maybe kill my inner self in the process. Making an effort is an ambiguous statement and definitely need more clarity. Nevertheless, in order to move a bit further in my personal growth, yes I need to make an effort.
An effort to do more of what I want and more of what is absolutely right for me!
Write more, Do more of what I love
Quill more, It satisfies my creative side.
Be more, Present in the life of ones I love and all those who actually matter.

My musings continue....