The Fairer Sex

Women, the epitome of beauty praised, worshiped , loved everywhere. Men cant live with them or without them. Monuments, songs and books are written about them. Men consider them lucky whenever they are successful. 

Mother, Sister, Daughter, Wife! 

In Every role she is full of advise!

And yet sometimes we fail to understand our inner strength. We fall weak and let our emotions take control of who we are.

We cry and sob and be become sad. We feel so unloved and so unresolved that darkness is a bottomless pit.I ask why do we need to feel so? 

Why cant we just become the Goddess we are known for! not the angry one but the one who knows the right from wrong. One who can become the support system and silently be the stronger one in any relationship. Let the tears be only to wash away the dirt in your eye. 

Get up, wipe those tears away and move ahead in life.

You are the best one for yourself! you do no need anyone to take care of you. Earn and live by your own rules. Never crumble and lose yourself!

Let me know your views!

The '#' trend

The '#' trend has taken over our lives where there is a certain urge to document everything and share it with some strangers on social media. I wont deny that i am not privy to it. I have done it too. but sometimes I fail to understand the certain urge to do so frequently.
I find that a lot of things are interconnected. There are certain things to consider
1. Loneliness
    We are flooded with messages from friends all over every platform of social media and yet we find hardly any one to share our actual thoughts. besides we have not kept our private life private anymore where you can check out everything that a person goes through on Facebook, Instagram etc.
2. Demand for high end phones
     mind it the demand for high end phones is seldom for its actual utility and more for the quality of camera, Enough space to hold the numerous snaps and the RAM to process everything quickly and to be able to score various platforms to #share the life.
3. Are we really this desirable?
   most importantly this trend that makes us want to share everything , does it make us more desirable or just to show the other person, how lovable and popular we are.
There was a movie made on this- The protagonist falls in love with a girl in the cafe and follows whatever she does by her posts. and in the end is able to make her fall in love. But he soon discovers, she merely posts them; it is only partially true.
So what are we actually doing with this # ?
putting a sign in front does not make it worth talking about.
#Declaring #it #to #the #world!
As if from this moment ago, your life was different!

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Love, A Weighty issue part 2

In my last post,I mentioned that the first thing that attracts a person is the way one looks. Well, I am fair and tall and a decade back was slim too. i might have had a good share of male attention and following but i would never consider any of it love, mere crushes so to speak. Yes i was oblivious of it all, in hindsight i feel i was great at being this ignorant. but then i changed, got married , had kids and thus my body changed too. but has the love I receive from my husband changed? has he stopped feeling the same way about me like he use to when we got married?

If the person evolves emotionally, mentally why cant we accept the person with a bit of weight (over)? Its great to be fit . but be fit in mind, soul and body.

Love , in my opinion should not matter on weight or how good looking a person is. in fact what should matter is the nature and the emo level of the person. Be the kind of person who accepts love for all its rightful reason. Don't make it such a weighty issue. Love should be humongous and all accepting! Love Yourself and accept who you are in all your sizes!
Write to me and tell me what you think!

Love, A weighty Issue!

We all are aware of laws of attraction. Different people get attracted to different aspect of the personlity. But most of us still consider looks and weight to be the most impartant thing that attracts us in a person. How fair is it?

Ramblings to be continued....

Making an effort

We all have been struggling!
Some of us struggle more than the other and yet we all put on a brave face and try to live with it.I wonder though that showing you are vulnerable, a sign of weakness or just a sign of your capability to accept yourself and let the other person accept you too?

Do I need to make an effort to accept me first and bring in the changes that i deem fit for myself or give in to the norms of the society and maybe kill my inner self in the process. Making an effort is an ambiguous statement and definitely need more clarity. Nevertheless, in order to move a bit further in my personal growth, yes I need to make an effort.
An effort to do more of what I want and more of what is absolutely right for me!
Write more, Do more of what I love
Quill more, It satisfies my creative side.
Be more, Present in the life of ones I love and all those who actually matter.

My musings continue....

Why i wanted to write?

Sometimes I just simply sit and wonder why did I study so hard to be a teacher and then all of a sudden just give it up and tried my hand on writing? I tried to search in my soul and found that I had always wanted to be a writer. Teaching was only a profession that I chose. Something that I had to do to find a job (apparently it was necessary)

The real reason why I wanted to be a writer-

1.       In the movies and books writers are always so cool. They can express so easily the turmoil in their heart or the love they felt. Eloquence and sophistication is what made me feel that I wanted to be writer like those in the movies

2.       Eternal romantic

I guess I have always been a born romantic... too emotional and in love with music so I think I had to write, some sort of art had been building inside me (I quill too). My fingers itched for many years to hold a pen and write on the paper, though typing on the system feels great too. When my mind works faster than I can type. I love that awesome feeling

3.       Gave me a chance to be whatever and whom so ever I want

Who is to say I am a married person with 2 kids, no one will ask me if I can cook good food? No one will see if I look good or not! I can write and express myself and that is what matters to me. I can escape in to a world that I created where I can fantasize and just be true to myself... a free bird of some sorts. I can dance and I can sing and I can play a guitar and beat the dreams... I just need a blank page and fill it with my words…

4.       Most importantly I can actually write and express myself.

I am not a very vocal person and mostly I am misunderstood. So when I write I can express the way I feel. Sometimes even words fail me too. But this is the medium I can safely express myself.

what is love

What is love?

What is that love that is fulfilled? Someday I wish to experience that love where I know that this it! I don’t need any more, I won’t find anyone.

That love that reaches its culmination! Sex and marriage is not the culmination of that kind of love. It is just a pit stop. That feeling where u feels butterflies in your tummy and that deep dull ache in your heart is just the beginning of that love. You want to be so close that the very air you breathe is each other’s breath. That love where nothing can come in between. That kind of closeness where your heart beats for you but works for the other one. The love that requires no name.

I want to feel that love again and with no one else but with the same person. The same person whom I can’t imagine my life without. He is my best friend, he knows what I am thinking and every day I want to feel as close to him as can be.

My interpretation of that love can be wrong. But I have experienced another side of this love

The one that consumed me! The one I could not breathe, where I ached for his voice, where my desperation overtook my reason and my will power had no control on me. When I had tears in my eyes and I cld not see beyond and past that. I have never felt that way where I had to lose that love and never could meet him or even think of him.

My heart can’t take it anymore and it has gotten weak. Coz I fall in love so easily but I love truly, madly and deeply!